A lot of toy content treats "for couples" as code for one specific body configuration, and files everything else under a single generic "LGBTQ" tag without much actual detail. The truth is the useful considerations are pretty different depending on who's using what with whom — so this guide splits it out rather than flattening it into one list.
Toys for lesbian couples
The biggest practical category here is toys designed for simultaneous or dual use rather than a single-partner, single-orifice design borrowed from straight-marketed products. A few things worth prioritizing:
- Dual-stimulation and strapless strap-ons: designed to stay in place internally for the wearer while providing external contact for a partner, without needing a harness. Worth trying before committing to a harness-based setup.
- Harness-compatible toys: if a harness setup is what you want, look specifically for O-ring compatible bases rather than assuming any dildo works — base shape matters more than most product photos make clear.
- Toys built for mutual use: double-ended and dual-motor designs exist specifically for two people using the same toy at once; worth a direct search rather than adapting single-user products.
For external stimulation shared between partners, the same general category covered in our Womanizer and Domi review applies regardless of the genders involved — pressure-wave and contact vibration are both worth trying to see which one lands.
Toys for gay men
The two biggest categories are prostate-specific toys and toys designed for shared use during partnered sex, and the two aren't always the same product.
- Prostate massagers: curved specifically to reach the prostate rather than a generic internal shape — a straight toy can work, but a curved, prostate-specific design tends to make it easier to find the right angle without as much trial and error.
- Material and firmness: firmer silicone tends to transmit pressure more precisely for prostate stimulation than very soft or flexible silicone, which is worth knowing since "soft" is marketed as a universal positive when it isn't always the right call here.
- Toys built for partnered use: the same wearable, app-controlled category in our Lovense Lush review has designs made for this specifically, not just adapted from a vulva-owner product line — check the product's stated intended use before buying.
Toys for trans and nonbinary people, including FTM-specific options
This is the category most generic guides skip entirely or handle badly, so it's worth being specific. Needs vary a lot depending on anatomy, whether someone is on hormone therapy, and personal comfort with different kinds of stimulation — there's no single "trans toy," but a few categories come up often enough to be worth naming directly.
- Packing and play toys (FTM/transmasc): some products are designed to function both as a packer for everyday wear and as a toy for penetrative sex, which can simplify things for people who want one product rather than two separate purchases.
- Toys designed for testosterone-related sensitivity changes: hormone therapy can change sensitivity over time, and toys with adjustable, lower-intensity settings tend to suit this better than high-intensity designs marketed for maximum power.
- External stimulators built for a range of anatomies: look for products explicitly marketed as adjustable-fit or as suction/contact style rather than a single fixed shape, since these tend to accommodate a wider range of bodies comfortably.
- Chest and body-safe options: for anyone using a toy in combination with a binder or post-surgical garments, checking sizing and wear time recommendations from the product page directly is worth doing before a purchase, since standard marketing photos rarely address it.
None of this is exhaustive, and comfort with any given product is genuinely individual — if you're newer to toys generally and want the basics on materials and fit before narrowing down to any of the categories above, start with our beginner's guide to sex toys.
A general note
Across every category here, the same rule from mainstream toy shopping still applies: body-safe materials, a realistic budget, and starting simple before adding complexity. What changes is which shape, firmness, or feature set actually serves the body and the sex you're having — and that's worth being specific about instead of defaulting to whatever's marketed loudest.